Let’s be honest -nobody wants to spend their wedding day wrangling distant cousins or breaking it to Great Aunt Morag (twice removed) that she’s not actually in the bride’s family photo. 🙈
That’s why I’ve got a tried-and-true system that keeps group photos snappy, easy, and dare I say… fun? Yes. Fun. I promise. Here’s how we do it:
Before the big day, I ask all my couples to send me a family photo list- with names! Not just “Bride’s Family” but the actual names:
“Couple with Shona (Mum), Grant (Dad), Sarah (Sister)”
This isn’t me being fussy- it’s magic. It means I can call people by name (less chaos), know exactly who’s meant to be in each photo (no guesswork), and avoid that “oh… you’re not in this one” awkwardness.
Plus, it keeps the wrong people from sneaking into the shot (we see you, overenthusiastic great aunties 👀).
I always recommend doing family photos straight after your ceremony.
Everyone’s there, emotions are high, no one’s wandered off to the bar (yet)- perfect!
We’ll grab a big group shot of everyone, then I’ll call out the names we need and the rest can head off for drinks. Boom. Efficient. Easy. No hunting people down.
Once I have your list, I work my little ex-teacher magic: colour-coded, logical, flowing like a dream.
I start with bigger groupings and work my way down, sending people off as they’re done. That way you’re not left with a crowd of people watching your every move. You get to head into your reception like the newlywed rockstars you are, not flanked by 47 distant relatives.
Yes, I will gently (but firmly) direct your guests like the pro I am. But I’m also all about catching those little real moments. The whispered jokes. The proud smiles. The giggles in between the “official” shots. That’s the magic, right there.
Blended families, awkward exes, or people who just don’t talk anymore? Totally fine. I’ll be your buffer, your peacekeeper, your “bad guy” if needed.
Want two family members who don’t get along in the same shot? I’ll make it happen in 45 seconds flat. Prefer to keep them separate? Done. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable – I’m here for you.
The named lists help so much. You’ll be surprised how often people realise someone’s missing just by seeing names written down. It’s the best way to make sure we don’t forget anyone – especially the people who mean the most.
Yes, yes, YES to including your dog in the family photos!
I’ve got tricks, treats, and an endless supply of silly noises to get those ears perked and tails wagging. And if your pup needs a little break? I’ll check in with you before we push anything. I’d always rather focus on photos with your pet looking chilled, not overwhelmed in a big group shot.
I recommend around 10 family groupings (not including bridal party).
Each takes about 2–3 minutes, so that’s roughly 30 minutes max.
BUT- and this is important- I’m fast. Like, blink-and-we’re-done fast. That means more time for canapés and hugs, and less time standing in the sun blinking through group shots.
I get it- group photos aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. But trust me, they’re the ones that’ll be framed on your parents’ mantelpiece. The ones you’ll cling to years from now.
They matter.
So smile, soak it in, and let’s make them beautiful.
You know what I love most? The in-between moments.
Your gran sneaking a look at your wedding ring. Your mum giving you a big proud Bosie. Those tiny glances and gentle touches that say more than any posed photo ever could.
That’s the real stuff. The heart stuff. That’s why I do what I do.
If you’re planning your wedding and the idea of family photos makes you feel overwhelmed, don’t worry- you’re not alone. But with a bit of prep, a splash of organisation, and someone on your side who gets it, they can actually be a joy.
Got questions about family photos for your own wedding? Drop me a message – I’m always happy to help.
Or if you’re ready to start planning your dream wedding gallery (Bosies and all), let’s chat!
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